Prioritize

We have all got two wolves in a suit. A good one and a bad one. They both want to eat the best. I just say we need to feed the good one than the other one.

Happiness is an emotional response to an outcome. If I win I will be happy if I don't, I won't. It's an IF -Then cause and effect that we cannot sustain because people immediately raise it everytime  we attain it.  See, hapiness demands a certain outcome, it is result reliant and I say if hapiness is what you're after, then you're going to be let down frequently and you're going to be unhappy most of your time.

Joy is different. It's something else. It's not a choice, it's not a response to some result, it's a constant. Joy is the feeling of what we have from doing what we are fashioned to do, no matter the outcome.
Now, personally, I am happy doing my work because it doesn't just define me, I am more than this.. Whenever I worked with joy I received more accolades and respect.

See, joy is always in process, it's under construction, it is in constant approach, alive and well,in the doing of what we are fashioned to do and enjoy. The easiest way to dissect success it's through gratitude. Saying thanks for what we do have, appreciating the simple things creates more. To be thankful is so simple and it works. I am not saying that you should be in denial of your failures. No, we can learn from them, too. But only if we look at them constructively as a means to reveal what we are good at.

My life is a verb. We try our best, we don't always do our best  and since we are the architects of our own lives, let's study, the habits, the practices, the routines that we have that lead to and feed our success, our joy, our honest pain, our laughter, our own tears. Let's dissect that and give thanks for those things and when we do that, guess what happens?!?!....We get better and we have more to dissect. It's a get-rich-quick scheme on the internet.

We all want to succeed, right? So the question that we've got to ask ourselves is what success is to us, what success is to you? Is it more money? That's fine. I have nothing against money. Maybe, it's a healthy family, maybe it's a happy marriage, maybe it's to help others, to be famous, to be spiritually sound, to live in a better world. Continue to ask yourself that question. Now, your answer may change over time and that's fine. But, do yourself a favour. Whatever you answer is don't choose anything that will jeopardize your soul.

Prioritize who you are, who you want to be and don't spend time with anything that antagonizes your character. Don't drink the"sweetness" , you will get cavities tomorrow.

All right, life is not a popularity contest. Be brave! Take the hill, but first answer that question
What's my hill?

First we need to define success for ourselves and then we have to put in the work to maintain it. Take that daily routine, keep those things that are important to us in good shape, defining ourselves by what we are not. It is the first step  that leads us to knowing who we are.

You know, that group of friends that you hang out with, might not bring the best in you. You know, they gossip too much, or they are kind of shady and they are not going to be there for you. The computer screen that keeps giving us an excuse not to get out of the house and engage with the world and get some real human interaction. I bet that food that you eat and makes you feel like crap, the next week we feel lethargic and we keep putting on weight. Well, those people, those places,  those things...stop giving them your time and energy.

Just...don't go there! I mean, put them down and when you do this, when you do put them down, when you quit, you find yourself in more places that are healthy for you, that bring you more joy. Why? Because you have eliminated the who, the where, the what that were keeping you from your identity. Look...trust me. Too many options will make a tyrant of us all.

Get yourself a break. eliminate who you are not, and you're going to find yourself where you need to be. Make voluntary obligations, with ourselves, with God, with our own conciousness . I am talking about the YOU versus YOU. Expectations that we acknowledge and endow for anyone other than ourselves are faith-based obligations that we make on our own. These are not the lowered insurance rates for not paying a tax or a fine, no one is going to arrest when you break them...except yourself!

We do our best when our destinations are beyond measurement when you reach continually exceeds our grasp. Take the lid off the man-made routes that we put above ourselves and always play like an underdog.